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Embrace All The “Feels.”

Don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone? Why yes, Joni Mitchell – it does seem to go that way. But I argue there is also another way it goes: that you don’t know what was gone ‘til it’s back.

This realization hit me hard the other day as I struggled to handle the return of some unfamiliar feelings – emotions.

Now at first that might not make sense – we often think feelings and emotions are the same. But they aren’t. In doing some research, I learned that emotions are physical states while feelings are mental associations and reactions to emotions. Basically, your brain looks at an emotion that arises in your body, assigns meaning to it, and that results in a feeling. Feelings may be the effect, but emotions are the deeper-rooted cause.

When we don’t want to feel a certain way, we tend to repress the emotion that causes the unwelcomed feeling. Push it down, bury it, pretend it isn’t there. I did that for years. Not wanting to feel the pain of a heartache, I suppressed the emotion of sadness altogether.

And that’s where it gets tricky… because feelings are subjective. They’re our brain’s interpretation and therefore; influenced by experiences, memories and beliefs. Ultimately, on some level, we choose them. And oftentimes, we choose wrong. In all my years of suppressing my sadness, I felt like I was being strong. I felt like I was moving on. I felt like I was okay. But I wasn’t.

Because years of denying pain can lead to apathy, until we no longer know what we’re missing. I haven’t felt real emotions in a long time. Surface level feelings, sure. But deep-rooted, feel-it-in-your-body emotions? It’s been a minute. Because when we numb ourselves to one emotion, it bleeds into others.

My experiences with love taught my brain to associate it with the same unpleasant feelings as sadness, to tie love to feelings of rejection, feelings of loss, feelings of heartache. So at some point, I began to deny the emotion of love as well.

We don’t get to be selective when it comes to our emotions – it’s an all or nothing game. And I was on the “nothing” side for quite some time without even realizing it.

But here’s the thing – the “all” is always there.

We may deny the uncomfortable emotions that arise in our life. We can push them back down and refuse the experience. But that doesn’t mean they go away. They stay buried inside us, patiently waiting their turn to surface. And in the meantime, they find every opportunity to remind us they’re there. They raise their hands and we’re anxious, stand up and we’re insecure, jump around and we’re depressed. And when we open the gate to let the pleasant ones free (love, happiness, joy), the unwanted ones can sneak out as well.

That’s what happened to me. One minute I felt a wave of extreme love… a pure feeling of joy I’d barely had glimpses of over the years. It was a fleeting feeling but I was still grateful it stopped by. Then later that day, another emotion arrived – sadness. The dull, persistent, unmistakable, pain of heartache I avoided for so long had returned. But this one didn’t stop by for a short visit like its counterpart did. Oh no – this one stuck around the rest of the night and into the next day, gnawing at my heart and begging my brain to spiral out of control into the land of insecure thoughts, needy behavior, and attention-seeking decisions.

I resisted the urge to let the emotion take over, but I was frustrated with its persistence. I could barely hold onto the wave of love – the one I wanted – and then I couldn’t get rid of the one I didn’t want. What’s wrong with me?

And that’s when the bigger lesson hit me. The experience wasn’t just practice in self-awareness of my thoughts and feelings… it was practice in self-acceptance.

Because accepting ourselves means accepting our whole selves… and all the feels along the way. We can’t deny them because they came for a reason. No matter how unpleasant, they exist to teach us – show us where our triggers are or where we haven’t dealt with something. We can only learn the lesson if we let them in and listen patiently, knowing it may take a while.

That’s what we often fail to do. We don’t acknowledge the unfriendly emotions. We don’t sit with them without judgment until they are ready to leave. Instead we immediately reject them, barely let them in the door before shoving them away.

But we have to understand they are part of us. All the emotions and all the “feels” are part of the human experience. So we should let them all in. Accept each one. Sit with each one. Appreciate each one, knowing it will not stay forever and we can’t let it stay forever. But understanding it too has something to say, understanding that difficult teachings are where we learn the most, and understanding that when it comes to emotions, unpleasant visitors are better than none at all.

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Mutual Masturbation.

You don’t have to wait until you are home alone to masturbate. You can masturbate while your person is sitting beside you in bed, doing the same exact thing.

Think about it… Don’t you think your person looks sexy when they touch themselves? Don’t you get turned on by the sound of their moans? Don’t you like the idea of having a night off from making them orgasm so you can focus on your own pleasure?

When you masturbate, you don’t have to worry about whether your person is going to touch you in the right places, because you are in charge. You get to control how much pressure you use and which rhythm you keep. You get to pleasure yourself exactly the way YOU want it, but you can still feel like you are getting intimate with your person because they are only a few inches away from you.

Mutual masturbation is the perfect way to learn what each other likes without having an awkward conversation about sex that neither of you really wants to have. You can learn by watching. By seeing what makes them horny firsthand. You should pay close attention to the way your person strokes themselves (and they should pay attention to how you touch yourself) so that the next time you have sex, you’ll both have intense orgasms.

Mutual masturbation will also encourage you to focus on your own pleasure. It will remind you that sex is not only about making your person orgasm (although that is a big part of it) but it’s also about making yourself happy. You should BOTH be having a good time during sex, not only one of you. That’s not the way it’s supposed to work.

Mutual masturbation is a way to feel even closer with each other. When you’re having sex, you might shut the lights off. You might leave most of your clothing on. You might cover yourself with a blanket and close your eyes or stare at the ceiling. But during mutual masturbation, you are encouraged to look instead of touch. You are supposed to enjoy the visual in front of you. That means you’ll see each other at your most vulnerable.

As a bonus, when you mutually masturbate, you are guaranteed an orgasm. You don’t have to risk your person finishing first and then dozing off to sleep while you are stuck feeling unfulfilled. You are doing the job yourself, which means it’s going to be done CORRECTLY.

The other great thing about mutual masturbation is, that it takes the stigma away from touching yourself. Some couples are uncomfortable knowing that their person is getting off to some fantasy inside of their head when they are alone — but if you are masturbating side-by-side you can ogle each other. You can rest easily knowing that they are thinking about YOU while they orgasm, not some stranger they ran into at work that day.

Of course, you don’t literally have to be in the same room together to masturbate. If you’re on a business trip or stuck in a long-distance relationship, you can both touch yourself while speaking over the phone or while chatting on Skype. That way, you can close your eyes and feel like you are together even when you are miles apart.

Mutual masturbation is perfect for when you are on your period and don’t want anyone else to touch you. Or for when you are too tired to thrust your hips, but awake enough to use your hands. Or for when you are worried about spreading STDs. Or for when you want to try something new in the bedroom, but aren’t ready for anything too kinky. It’s the answer to all of your sexual needs.

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Dear Best Friend…

Dear Friend,

I don’t think you really see how special and awe-inspiring you are, and I am here to remind you of that. I am here to tell you that women like you are so rare and precious and that I feel truly blessed to have you in my life.

You inspire me because you are not afraid to be yourself. And I know you weren’t born that way. I know that life has beaten and bent you. I know it took you a long time to learn to truly love yourself.

You had to build your confidence from scratch. But you managed. Somewhere down the line, you realized that it’s not about being perfect—it’s about being you. It’s about accepting yourself.

You taught me that you don’t always have to be strong. You are allowed to have a meltdown from time to time. You are allowed to break into pieces. That’s OK, as long as you keep picking yourself up.

Not giving up on yourself is what it’s all about, and it doesn’t matter how long it takes. It’s the end result that counts.

You inspire me, because no matter how many curve balls life threw at you, you always found the moments to smile.

Even in your darkest hour, you keep a positive mind. You always enjoy the small fragments of light that come your way.

You know that there are always some good days just around the corner, waiting for you, waiting for your loved ones, and it’s only a matter of time before you get there.

You transform an ordinary day into extraordinary.

You have a great sense of humor. You can make a whole room laugh without making an actual effort. There is something radiant about you that makes people gravitate to you.

You are intelligent, driven and passionate in whatever you do. When you hit a roadblock, you just keep on persisting until you make it. And I’m lucky just to witness that.

Watching you dream big inspires me to do the same.

You are brave enough to leave your comfort zone and reach for more. You don’t allow your fears to hold you down. You say you’ve done that for years and that it is time to change your ways.

I couldn’t agree more. I will try to do the same. I want more for myself. I want to try new things and follow new adventures.

All the problems and all the love troubles I’m experiencing, seem less when I share them with you.

Thank you for listening to my drama over and over again. I know that I keep repeating myself from time to time. But you get me somehow. You know just the right things to say. Heck, you sometimes even know me better than I know myself.

Thank you for bearing with me. Thank you for all the love and support you’ve been giving me all these years.

You taught me that not everything has to have an answer.

I’m an overthinker, and I don’t do well with things that are left unsaid. I don’t do well with relationships that have loose ends. I hate not having closure. But I guess that’s inevitable.

You’ve been there, and you know. There’s no point in thinking about ‘what ifs’ and people who chose to disappear from one’s life without saying a word.

You keep reminding me that people like that are not worthy of my time and that makes the whole process of moving on a little bit easier.

Thank you for soothing my thoughts. Thank you for showing me by example how it’s done. And though these things are never painless, they’ve started hurting a bit less.

Thank you for reminding me that I deserve more.

You make me believe it myself. I’ve had my fair share of toxic relationships that have made me think I am not good enough. But in your eyes, there’s no one as good as me.

There is nothing about me that you would change. You just push me to be the best version of myself. You just keep repeating, “More self-love baby girl, more self-love.”

And you are right. I need to love myself more. I need to demand the same respect back that I’m giving to someone, or I will end up heartbroken again.

Thank you for being brutally honest even when I don’t want to hear it

You won’t sugarcoat anything. I can count on you to give me a reality check when I need one. You always keep me grounded and remind me that I have to take my brain with me when I follow my heart.

You will tell me if someone’s stringing me along or making a fool out of me because I’m caught in the love mist and unable to see that for myself.

You know that it will be painful to hear that, but you are only trying to spare me from even greater pain in the future.

There are many more similar situations. I don’t even want to count them because it would take forever. But the point is, you have my back. You protect me even when I don’t even realize I need protection.

You make my life better. You make everyone’s life better.

You are amazingly charismatic, and you have this unique gift to lift other people’s spirits up. You are kind, compassionate and selfless.

You are an angel on Earth who came into this world with the purpose to help others. You care for others first and for yourself second. You are always the one who gives more, tries more and loves more.

Sadly, that’s something people take advantage of too often—especially those you’ve cared for the most. Those you let into your heart. The men of your life who didn’t know how to appreciate you.

They took your goodness for granted. They got used to your understanding of nature, and they kept thinking that you will keep on forgiving them for eternity. They thought they can come and go as they wished.

They never could have pictured this new woman you have become. The empowered woman who doesn’t let anybody treat her like crap. The woman who respects herself and demands to be respected back.

There are boundaries within you that no one can cross. You raised your standards, even though you are still a low-maintenance girl..

You don’t need fancy dinners and expensive gifts. You need someone who will laugh with you while you take something from a food stand, and someone to gift you his free time and attention.

The guy who ends up being your forever will be so lucky to have you.

He will have a woman by his side who knows what is truly important in life, the one who doesn’t sweat the small stuff, the one who is loyal to the bone.

He will have a strong and independent woman who doesn’t need him, but wants him in her life. And if he’s smart, he’ll appreciate you even more for it.

I know that you can’t see yourself through my eyes.

You are so modest that you don’t even realize how amazing and unique you are. You believe that everyone has a heart like yours.

But I wrote it anyway, just to show you what you are made of. Just to tell you that you inspire me and make me want to be the best version of myself.

You’ve touched my life in ways I can’t even explain. You are my rock. You are the one I share my happiness with. I am so blessed to have you in my life.

Thank you for love. Thank you for friendship. Thank you for being you.

I believe that these kinds of friendships are rare. They are something out of this world. They are something to thank God for and never take for granted.

I really do believe that friendships like ours are forever. You see life happens, things change, people come and go, relationships end, but a best friend is someone who stays by your side for eternity.

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A True Friend.

Have you ever had a best friend, in the real sense of that word?

A sister, your other half and someone who is there for you through bad and good days, through thick and thin?

Have you ever had someone you can call in the middle of the night, when you’re not feeling well?

A person who isn’t your family by blood but by choice?

If you have, then you know that a true friend never lets you go through anything bad in life alone.

You know that she is someone who sticks by your side through all of your nightmares, including one of the worst things every girl can experience: a heartbreak.

Yes, she probably told you that this guy wasn’t right for you from the very start.

She probably warned you about his numerous flaws which you failed to notice.

This girl saw this man’s true colors before you did. She read right through his sweet words and charming exterior.

She saw that you could do better and that he never deserved you.

She saw that he was an immature guy who couldn’t put up with a strong woman like you.

She knew he wasn’t any good. She knew he would end up hurting you and that he would end up crushing your heart to pieces, exactly the way he did.

However, once everything she was warning you about became reality, you didn’t hear any repetitions of I told you so.

You didn’t hear her nagging that you should have known better or calling you stupid for believing in his lies.

Instead, she was right there holding your hand like every time up till now.

No, she didn’t rush you into anything and she never tried making you do things her way.

She wasn’t telling you that it was time for you to forget and move on, when you were obviously still not ready for that step.

She wasn’t judging you for taking so long to heal, and she wasn’t pushing you to your limits.

However, she was there to understand you and to give you the support you desperately needed.

There to come to you, even when you didn’t reach out to her and to know what you needed before you knew it yourself.

This girl didn’t leave your sight for a minute.

She put up with you even when you were impossible to handle, and even when she was too busy with her own life.

She was there all along, wiping your tears away and promising you that you would recover.

Reassuring you that better things would come along and begging you to have faith.

She was right there, listening to your endless stories she had heard a million times.

Listening to you retelling every single detail of your relationship, to you saying how much you still love this douchebag and you grieving your past.

She was right there, when you needed someone to stalk your ex or his next girlfriend.

Right there to curse the day he was born, to talk shit about him and everything he did to you.

She was right there to believe in you, even when you didn’t, and to encourage you in the moments when you thought that you’d never be able to forget him.

She was right there to save you from him.

To haunt away all of your past demons and to help you take a step into the future.

This girl was next to you through all of your sleepless nights, when you needed someone to talk to you or just someone to sit there in silence.

Someone to count on and someone to bring you back your faith in humanity.

She was there to save you from your own bad judgments.

There to prevent you from sending all of those texts you would eventually regret, from picking up the first guy you liked, just to get even with your ex and to stop you from losing your dignity.

She was your guardian angel and your shoulder to cry on.

The light at the end of your tunnel, and the silver lining to your cloud.

The good in all of your bad days.

And that is exactly what true friends are for.

Because a true friend will never let you go through a heartache alone.

Instead, she will stand by your side to pick up your broken pieces and to glue you back together. 

And that is something you should always be thankful for.

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I Am A Gypsy Soul.

“A gypsy soul isn’t lost and looking. A Gypsy soul is one who loves movement and finding the pulse in nature and flight as a metaphor. One who thinks everything is music. One who knows and holds an inward and therefore outwardly contagious kind of freedom.”
(Victoria Erickson)

If you ever came across a girl with a gypsy soul, she must’ve made some impact on you. She was probably like nobody you met before.

That free-spirit girl was somebody that made you feel comfortable and good about yourself while in her presence, and you would very much like to meet her again.

The things listed below enable you to have a deeper look at all the unusual, but yet, incredible elements that define a girl with a gypsy soul:

1. Emotions are her guideline.

She always follows her heart no matter what.

She thinks too much and feels too much. She is empathetic and very considerate of other people’s needs, but she doesn’t neglect her own.

The bad thing about being extremely emotional is, that she can get hurt easily. Everything other people do she takes close to heart.

Her emotions are not tamed. She can get very happy and very sad with the same ease. Fortunately, she is able to let go of negative emotions quickly.

2. She relies on her intuition.

She always follows her soul no matter what. She is not afraid of taking chances and living in uncertainty.

She is brave, even though she might seem thoughtless at times. She is aware of who she is and decides to depend on her intuition.

3. She is adventurous.

Love of traveling is her first and everlasting love. She lives life to the fullest with her bags always packed and ready to go.

Routine is not her thing. She loves change, and she is always looking for something new.

She likes diversity which is why she likes meeting new people in new places and listening to their stories. Otherwise, she might get bored easily.

4. She is a bohemian.

Her spirit is wild and free. She refuses to be tied down by conventions. She doesn’t let society’s rules dictate what to do.

She resents people constantly telling her how to live her life. She has her own path to follow and rivers to flow in.

5. She is unique.

She doesn’t imitate anybody. She is her own person with her own ideas and dreams. She has her own sense of style in every aspect of life.

She is in her own motion picture movie, and she doesn’t allow anybody to tell her how to live her life.

Being accepted or understood by others isn’t so important to her. What is more important is, how she feels in her own skin.

6. She is a nature lover.

She appreciates and feels the grandness that is nature. All those breathtakingly beautiful places are art at it’s finest.

Outdoor adventures are her thing. She loves discovering new places but she always goes back to the old ones.  

She loves animals. She probably has a pet or is thinking of getting one.

She gets inspired by mountain streams, forests, oceans, rain, snow, and the sun. Whether living in the countryside or the city, she always finds time to spend in nature.

7. She is unpredictable.

Because of her heightened emotions, she can go from extremely happy to extremely sad in a matter of minutes.

One minute she is ready to hang out with friends, the other she is canceling her plans. That’s why she is constantly searching for balance in her life.

8. She is self-sufficient.

Her ‘alone time’ is very important to her. She enjoys her own company. When she is alone among her four walls, that’s quite OK. It makes her feel comfortable.

She never relies on other people to make her happy; she creates her own happiness.

9. Art is important to her.

When you listen to her speaking about art, you feel like she is exaggerating. But she is really into it, and she understands art.

She might even be an artist herself. She is an artist in her own way, anyway—she paints life with her own colors.

10. Music runs through her vein.

Music is her drug. It makes her move in ways you can’t even imagine. She loves all the musical varieties from soulful roots rock, jazz, blues to pop music and Latino beats.

The music genre is not so important as long as it makes her feel and move. She enjoys words, rhythm, dance—everything that defines music. Everything that essentially defines life.

11. Her gypsy soul is filled with fire.

She does everything with great passion or she doesn’t do it at all.

She chooses her career, friendships, and relationships based on passion.

Passion is her lifestyle.

12. She has a mouth she can’t control.

She simply speaks her mind. She is protective of her beliefs. She has her own ideals, and she is not scared to stand up for them.

No matter what anybody thinks, she has her own opinions and strong viewpoints.

13. She enjoys her freedom.

She is free-spirited and doesn’t like anything that burdens her or ties her down. It is irrelevant if it is a relationship or something else—it has to give her sense of freedom.

She runs away from everything that pressures and constrains her.

14. She tends to ask these deep questions.

She is out in search of the deeper meaning of things. She is curious. She asks things like:

“What’s your life philosophy?” Which phase of your life did you like best? What’s your biggest regret?” , “When was the last time you felt really happy to be alive?” etc.

She also sees the deeper meaning behind your words and wants to know what you really meant if you seem like you are hiding something.

15. She has a heart for vintage things.

She is an old soul in the new world.

At first glance, you can see that she has successfully mastered her boho style. She combines old with new so skillfully.

She finds old/ new things in second-hand shops, her mom’s closet or has them custom made. She prefers old things to new ones because they have history and meaning.

Sometimes, she finds some old movies, screwball comedies, and other things people nowadays consider outdated.

16. She is a collector of moments.

Material things are not important to her. She can live almost anywhere as long as it is clean and decent. She doesn’t like fancy clothes and designer outfits.

She collects moments, not things. She cherishes those special points in time that she experienced with people she loves.

Making memories in new places with people important to her is a priceless possession.

17. She loves unconditionally.

No matter what you do or how you behave or if you are currently in a good or bad place. She will never judge.

She accepts you for who you are. Her love is unquestionable and undeniable. Her love is something you can rely on.

18. She is a wanderer.

She is in a constant search for herself. She wanders around, trying to figure out what is it that she really wants from life. That doesn’t scare her.

Being lost gives her a sense of direction. She always finds new ways to improve herself and is not afraid to take different paths to lead her to her destination, even though she still doesn’t have a clear picture of where that is.

19. Life doesn’t scare her.

She takes everything as it comes. Troubles and heartaches make her stronger.

That doesn’t mean she has no meltdown point and that silent tears don’t roll down her face. It just means that she welcomes them as a natural part of life. They are bound to happen.  

So, she closes her eyes, holds on tightly, gets through them and accepts them for what they are.

20. She believes that something good is always waiting around the corner.

She is what comes to mind when you hear the word ‘optimist’. People usually say that she’s watched too many romantic movies. Not everything is so peachy.

She is always on the lookout for that one little miracle which will change everything for the better. Optimism is food for her soul.

The best way to sum up everything that has been said, and catch the essence of this amazing and unique girl is through this gypsy soul quote by Brooke Hampton:

“I like stormy nights and full moons. I like wolves and wild water. I like to wander and I like adventures. I like unpredictable kisses and conversations full of unexpected truth. I like things that have the soul. They make me feel free.”

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Your Illness Is An Asshole To Me.

The problem is not that you are bipolar. The problem is that you use your illness as an excuse to justify your poor behavior. I’m not insinuating that you don’t have a legit diagnosis, and I’m also not trying to say that you can control your behavior. I know that you can’t.

What you could do is be proactive in your own self-care. What you could do is try to learn strategies that will help YOU to function better in your day-to-day life so that your own behavior isn’t your biggest barrier. I mean, aside from the fact that I can’t talk to you about anything real, and you cut me out of your life and the lives of your children without so much as a second thought, your demons don’t hurt me the way they do you.

As your friend I want better for you, and as a person with experience in dealing with mental health issues, I know that there are more options for you than you will consider.

Knowing that this unwillingness/inability to help yourself is actually a symptom of the very problem I want you to get help for, I have offered to help you. I have offered to do the legwork, make the phone calls, come with you to appointments. I even offered to go with you to the hospital and sit in the emergency department for two days so you could have your meds monitored and adjusted when your ‘idiot doctor’ had the nerve to leave you in his waiting room for too long, and you left the office in a huff without getting the prescription that you needed to function. And then I listened to you complain three months later when you still hadn’t resolved the issue on your own.

You have a diagnosis and you think that’s enough, but it’s not. Your meds clearly help to some degree, but they aren’t going to teach you the skills you need to maintain your interpersonal relationships.

If at any point you would like to get off the roller coaster that is your life, you will have to actually face yourself. You create chaos because that’s what you need to feel grounded, and you refuse to get actual help because you don’t want to do the work that helping yourself will entail. It’s hard, and when things get hard, you would rather walk away than problem solve. I’ve seen you do it over and over in your life; you want to take the easy way out and it leads to more work for yourself.

Okay, fine, whatever. Keep half-assing it. It’s not for me to judge your life choices, and I’m not. The problem is that I can’t tiptoe around you on these eggshells anymore. If I thought there was an end in sight, maybe. But, unfortunately, I’ve come to realize that until you get real help and change your patterns, we are always going to end up at this place where you see me as the enemy. You get mad at me for knowing that you could have a better quality of life, and even madder when I try to help you achieve that when you start spiraling out of control. I don’t know what to do with that anymore.

What you don’t realize while you’re busy being mad at me for giving a fuck, is that you’re breaking my heart over and over again. You’re making me question my sanity. You’re separating me from your children whom I love dearly and have tried and succeeded to make meaningful relationships with, and every time you cut me off, they feel abandoned by me, while I miss them and all of their important milestones until you decide I’m not the worst again.

It’s not just you in this and all the time that you’re not actually dealing with or managing your illness, my place in your life is precarious, and no matter how many ways I try to tell myself, “It’s not her, it’s her illness,” it comes back to the fact that, as long as you are not dealing with your diagnosis, you are your illness, and your illness is kind of an asshole to me.

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God Is Enough.

It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do in life, and how much you have accomplished. I’m certain that you have one final goal which is common to every human being alive, and that is to be happy.

Of course, happiness has a different meaning for all of us.

Some think that being happy is sleeping next to your loved one or just being able to sleep peacefully. Some find happiness in good health, while others chase material possessions and money.

However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that none of these groups actually acquire true happiness.

In fact, people who realize that God is enough end up the happiest.

These are the only people who don’t worry about what tomorrow will bring, who don’t overthink the past, trying to change it, and who live a life without any fear.

It doesn’t matter what religion you belong to—the bottom line is always the same: if you have enough faith in God, everything else in this earthly existence becomes completely irrelevant.

It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do in life, and how much you have accomplished. I’m certain that you have one final goal which is common to every human being alive, and that is to be happy.

Of course, happiness has a different meaning for all of us.

Some think that being happy is sleeping next to your loved one or just being able to sleep peacefully. Some find happiness in good health, while others chase material possessions and money.

However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that none of these groups actually acquire true happiness.

In fact, people who realize that God is enough end up the happiest.

These are the only people who don’t worry about what tomorrow will bring, who don’t overthink the past, trying to change it, and who live a life without any fear.

It doesn’t matter what religion you belong to—the bottom line is always the same: if you have enough faith in God, everything else in this earthly existence becomes completely irrelevant.

However, when you believe in God, one significant thing drastically changes: your perception of everything going on around you.

No, your life won’t magically fall into place, and your problems don’t disappear, as if they were never there.

However, you get your inner peace, and there is nothing more important than that.

You get the realization that you don’t depend on anyone besides God and that He is the only one who can impact your life besides yourself.

When your faith in God is firm, you realize that everything happens for a reason, and you search for good in all the bad situations that occur. You allow him to lead you, and you trust Him to show you the right way.

You understand that everything you are going through happened for your own good. You become optimistic and look forward to every new day because you see your life as a perfect puzzle and because you know that God always has a plan, even when you don’t see it.

You’re at peace because you know that He’ll never give you more than you can handle and because you realize that all the tough love He’s been giving you is nothing but a valuable lesson which will transform you into the person you’re destined to be.

When you see that God is enough, you have patience, and all of your worries go away. You know that there is no point in cracking your brains open because your future is already written.

You are aware that your life will turn out just the way it should. You know that you’ll get exactly what and who is destined to be yours, and even when you lose someone, you understand that you were better off without them.

Once you understand that God is enough, you are no longer a control freak, and you don’t think that everything is in your hands.

You learn to let go and move on with your life because you know that something better always awaits you.

You accept that some things and people are simply not meant to be, that all of your efforts in changing that are in vain, and that there is nothing you can do about it. 

Just like that, everything becomes crystal clear, and you get the bottom of life’s meaning and the purpose you have on Earth.

You start seeing the world around you from a completely different perspective, and you get all the answers you have been searching for for so long.

Most importantly—when you realize His importance, you stop looking for love in all the wrong places and from the wrong people. You are no longer dependent on others to give you validation and to prove your worth.

You don’t allow your happiness to be connected with anyone else.

You stop with all the self-doubts which have been eating you alive simply because you believe in His light to guide you and pull you out of the darkness, no matter what happens.

You don’t need other people you can trust and rely on, when you have Him who’ll never leave your side. You stop chasing everyone’s attention and admiration, and you stop putting others in the centre of your Universe.

Even when everyone abandons you, you know that He remains, no matter what. Even when you feel pain for someone’s absence, His presence makes it a lot easier and more bearable.

So, please, stop chasing earthly pleasures, temporary love, short term lust or material belongings.

Trust me when I tell you that none of these things will bring you joy nor will they make you feel complete and fulfilled.

Instead, focus all of your strengths in the search for God.

Chase faith, and understand that it is the only thing which will make you truly and utterly happy.