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God Give Me Strength.

Whenever someone new walks into my life, they all think one thing: that I could be declared to be the happiest woman in the world.

People assume that I have absolutely no worries on my mind and that I fall asleep and wake up with a smile on my face.

However, the truth is far from that. In fact, I’ve had my share of misfortunes up till now just like the next person.

Life hasn’t been treating me as kindly as everyone might think. I’ve had more downs than ups and I’ve cried more than I have laughed.

My heart has been broken more than once, I’ve dealt with some devastating losses, and I had to find a way to rise from the ashes numerous times.

There were times when I felt hopeless and helpless; moments when I felt like I’d hit rock bottom and moments when I was surrounded by darkness.

Nevertheless, do you know what helped me? Faith. That is actually the thing that kept me alive all this time.

The only thing that helped me see the right path even when I felt like I was trapped in a tunnel, that didn’t allow me to give up and which gave me optimism in the toughest of times.

You see, no matter how far I have fallen, I have always known that God was on my side.

And He was the one who kept me going, no matter what; the one who gave me a hand when I needed it and who pushed me forward in all of my battles.

God was always there to give me the strength I didn’t even know I possessed. To tell me that I can make it and to show me how powerful I actually am.

Through thick and thin, He was there to give me optimism and hope. There to teach me the importance of believing in myself and to assure me that I will manage to overcome every obstacle I encounter.

God was there to give me comfort and reassurance when I needed them the most. To show me everything I was capable of and to help me move forward.

He was there to give me a push every time I thought of giving up, to turn my open wounds into scars, and to remind me never to lose faith in Him or in myself.

I won’t lie to you—there were times when it appeared that He was treating me without mercy. Times when He was testing and challenging me.

However, every time God closed one door for me, he opened a few more. Every time I thought I had reached my spiritual end, He gave me something to be grateful for.

Every time He didn’t answer my prayers, He replaced it with something even better.

Every time He removed some people from my life, He was sending me a sign that they didn’t deserve to be there in the first place.

So, now I realize that it was all for my own good. Even the losses, the ungranted wishes and the tears had a purpose.

They were there to teach me a lesson and to clear my path. Most importantly—there to show me how strong a woman I actually am.

They were there to teach me that I can’t be broken so easily. To help me understand how to heal my broken heart and how to glue myself back together, without anyone’s assistance.

So, no, I’m not happy every single moment of my existence. I’m not always content with everything going on around me, nor do I consider my life to be perfect.

However, I am at ease. I’m peaceful because I know that even when something bad happens, things will find a way of sorting themselves out.

I am optimistic because my faith is guiding me.

Because I know that God will never give me more than I can handle and most importantly—because I know He will never leave me to fight my battles on my own.

I’m calm because now I’m finally aware of my inner strength and moreover; because I’m thankful for all of my blessings.

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Being A Strong Woman.

Are you okay with someone telling you what to do? Are you okay with someone being in charge of your life?

Since when do people have the idea they can change someone’s life and direct them on a path THEY think is the best? Or, more importantly, since when do women listen to that shit?

Honey, do whatever the hell makes you happy!

You are a woman who has been through ups and downs. You’ve seen hell and you’ve tasted happiness.

Still, you stand tall with an uncorrupted heart and neverending hope. Still, you stand filled with love, all fierce and mature.

No one – listen to me… NO ONE has the right to change who you are. NO ONE has the right to tell you what to do!

Taking advice from someone is a two-way street. Unfortunately, most of us find ourselves becoming targets of jealousy and false pretenses.

It’s not uncommon to get stabbed in the back by the person you thought you could trust.

Advice coming from those people – the ones who pretend to be your friends – is toxic and dangerous.

On the other hand, advice from someone who sincerely cares for you is a blessing.

Sadly, no one knows for sure when a piece of toxic advice is disguised as a warm and loving one, and when it’s the other way around.

Having said this, I guess my point is: The only person you can trust is yourself. A strong woman knows that.

A strong woman knows she can only trust her own intuition and her own actions. She knows her judgment is, in the end, the most reliable one.

Some may interpret it as being stubborn, but the truth is, a strong woman knows what she wants, therefore, she does whatever the hell she wants.

A strong woman wants to…

Be undefinable by society. She doesn’t want to be a stereotype – a beautiful, classy, and extremely feminine woman who is supposed to do girly stuff and act according to what society thinks is acceptable.

No, a strong woman – a woman who wants to be whatever the hell she wants – will watch football on Sundays and drink beer with the guys.

She will even get shit-faced drunk in a bar refusing to go home. And none of these things will look ridiculous on her; no one will judge her.

The reason for that is more than simple. She is super confident and she will never force herself to do something she doesn’t feel comfortable doing. And that’s visible from the outside.

Be nothing less than completely honest. There is no place for mind games in her life. She thinks playing around is a complete waste of time – and her time is far too precious to waste.

Whether in a friendship or in a relationship, she will always tell you the truth and never be ashamed of it.

A woman like her does whatever the hell she wants BECAUSE she can.

Hearing the truth from her can feel like a cold shower, but that cold shower is responsible for bringing you back to reality where problems are waiting to be solved. Thank her for shaking you up!

Be nothing less than completely honest with herself too. If she’s hurting, she’ll find the strength to accept it and, more importantly, get over it in time.

She is woman enough to confess what’s going on in her head and what she’s feeling.

She isn’t concerned with appearing silly or crazy. The secret to her sanity and healthy spirit is honesty and embracing what she feels.

Only mature and strong women are ready to make that move.

Be independent. And she is. She doesn’t need anyone really. She doesn’t need your love that badly that it will make her reach the border of the “Land of the Desperate.”

On the contrary, she will accept your move, and then… Then she will make her own.

You won’t see it coming. She’ll surprise you with the last thing you thought she’d do.

In these situations, walking away from the person she loves and being broken for a while is far more acceptable than spending the rest of her life like a fool, played and controlled.

Fight her own battles. She won’t let you push her around. She won’t let you bully her. Conflict isn’t a strange concept to her.

She doesn’t like it, but she doesn’t avoid it either. If the situation asks for it, she will fight for what she wants no matter the consequences.

She’s no doormat and, trust me, she’ll never let you take your frustrations out on her.

She has boundaries, and no one has the right to cross them. Anyone who dared, was punished for it.

Be in a relationship for the sake of it. She isn’t in it only for the sex. She doesn’t need a casual relationship with you because she can find casual wherever she goes.

A one-time thing is not that complicated to come across. On the other hand, a meaningful relationship is.

A real relationship doesn’t revolve around sex. It’s definitely a part of it, but it is not a priority.

Anyone who thinks differently doesn’t stand a chance in the presence of a woman like this. She’s on a completely different level of consciousness.

Be responsible for her own mistakes. A person like her will never throw someone else under the bus.

If she’s wrong, she will come clean without thinking twice about it. Once again, maturity leaves its footprint.

When it comes to relationships, she’ll own up to her part of screwing up, but also want the same from you.

Sadly, sometimes these women have bigger balls when it comes to admitting mistakes than some men.

The point is, she wants to solve the problem and owning up to it is the only way a problem can be fixed.

In the end…

A strong woman is a woman who’ll walk away when she isn’t happy. A strong woman is a woman who won’t take BS from anyone, under any cost.

A strong woman will do whatever the hell she wants. Why? Because A STRONG WOMAN CAN.