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I Am A Gypsy Soul.

“A gypsy soul isn’t lost and looking. A Gypsy soul is one who loves movement and finding the pulse in nature and flight as a metaphor. One who thinks everything is music. One who knows and holds an inward and therefore outwardly contagious kind of freedom.”
(Victoria Erickson)

If you ever came across a girl with a gypsy soul, she must’ve made some impact on you. She was probably like nobody you met before.

That free-spirit girl was somebody that made you feel comfortable and good about yourself while in her presence, and you would very much like to meet her again.

The things listed below enable you to have a deeper look at all the unusual, but yet, incredible elements that define a girl with a gypsy soul:

1. Emotions are her guideline.

She always follows her heart no matter what.

She thinks too much and feels too much. She is empathetic and very considerate of other people’s needs, but she doesn’t neglect her own.

The bad thing about being extremely emotional is, that she can get hurt easily. Everything other people do she takes close to heart.

Her emotions are not tamed. She can get very happy and very sad with the same ease. Fortunately, she is able to let go of negative emotions quickly.

2. She relies on her intuition.

She always follows her soul no matter what. She is not afraid of taking chances and living in uncertainty.

She is brave, even though she might seem thoughtless at times. She is aware of who she is and decides to depend on her intuition.

3. She is adventurous.

Love of traveling is her first and everlasting love. She lives life to the fullest with her bags always packed and ready to go.

Routine is not her thing. She loves change, and she is always looking for something new.

She likes diversity which is why she likes meeting new people in new places and listening to their stories. Otherwise, she might get bored easily.

4. She is a bohemian.

Her spirit is wild and free. She refuses to be tied down by conventions. She doesn’t let society’s rules dictate what to do.

She resents people constantly telling her how to live her life. She has her own path to follow and rivers to flow in.

5. She is unique.

She doesn’t imitate anybody. She is her own person with her own ideas and dreams. She has her own sense of style in every aspect of life.

She is in her own motion picture movie, and she doesn’t allow anybody to tell her how to live her life.

Being accepted or understood by others isn’t so important to her. What is more important is, how she feels in her own skin.

6. She is a nature lover.

She appreciates and feels the grandness that is nature. All those breathtakingly beautiful places are art at it’s finest.

Outdoor adventures are her thing. She loves discovering new places but she always goes back to the old ones.  

She loves animals. She probably has a pet or is thinking of getting one.

She gets inspired by mountain streams, forests, oceans, rain, snow, and the sun. Whether living in the countryside or the city, she always finds time to spend in nature.

7. She is unpredictable.

Because of her heightened emotions, she can go from extremely happy to extremely sad in a matter of minutes.

One minute she is ready to hang out with friends, the other she is canceling her plans. That’s why she is constantly searching for balance in her life.

8. She is self-sufficient.

Her ‘alone time’ is very important to her. She enjoys her own company. When she is alone among her four walls, that’s quite OK. It makes her feel comfortable.

She never relies on other people to make her happy; she creates her own happiness.

9. Art is important to her.

When you listen to her speaking about art, you feel like she is exaggerating. But she is really into it, and she understands art.

She might even be an artist herself. She is an artist in her own way, anyway—she paints life with her own colors.

10. Music runs through her vein.

Music is her drug. It makes her move in ways you can’t even imagine. She loves all the musical varieties from soulful roots rock, jazz, blues to pop music and Latino beats.

The music genre is not so important as long as it makes her feel and move. She enjoys words, rhythm, dance—everything that defines music. Everything that essentially defines life.

11. Her gypsy soul is filled with fire.

She does everything with great passion or she doesn’t do it at all.

She chooses her career, friendships, and relationships based on passion.

Passion is her lifestyle.

12. She has a mouth she can’t control.

She simply speaks her mind. She is protective of her beliefs. She has her own ideals, and she is not scared to stand up for them.

No matter what anybody thinks, she has her own opinions and strong viewpoints.

13. She enjoys her freedom.

She is free-spirited and doesn’t like anything that burdens her or ties her down. It is irrelevant if it is a relationship or something else—it has to give her sense of freedom.

She runs away from everything that pressures and constrains her.

14. She tends to ask these deep questions.

She is out in search of the deeper meaning of things. She is curious. She asks things like:

“What’s your life philosophy?” Which phase of your life did you like best? What’s your biggest regret?” , “When was the last time you felt really happy to be alive?” etc.

She also sees the deeper meaning behind your words and wants to know what you really meant if you seem like you are hiding something.

15. She has a heart for vintage things.

She is an old soul in the new world.

At first glance, you can see that she has successfully mastered her boho style. She combines old with new so skillfully.

She finds old/ new things in second-hand shops, her mom’s closet or has them custom made. She prefers old things to new ones because they have history and meaning.

Sometimes, she finds some old movies, screwball comedies, and other things people nowadays consider outdated.

16. She is a collector of moments.

Material things are not important to her. She can live almost anywhere as long as it is clean and decent. She doesn’t like fancy clothes and designer outfits.

She collects moments, not things. She cherishes those special points in time that she experienced with people she loves.

Making memories in new places with people important to her is a priceless possession.

17. She loves unconditionally.

No matter what you do or how you behave or if you are currently in a good or bad place. She will never judge.

She accepts you for who you are. Her love is unquestionable and undeniable. Her love is something you can rely on.

18. She is a wanderer.

She is in a constant search for herself. She wanders around, trying to figure out what is it that she really wants from life. That doesn’t scare her.

Being lost gives her a sense of direction. She always finds new ways to improve herself and is not afraid to take different paths to lead her to her destination, even though she still doesn’t have a clear picture of where that is.

19. Life doesn’t scare her.

She takes everything as it comes. Troubles and heartaches make her stronger.

That doesn’t mean she has no meltdown point and that silent tears don’t roll down her face. It just means that she welcomes them as a natural part of life. They are bound to happen.  

So, she closes her eyes, holds on tightly, gets through them and accepts them for what they are.

20. She believes that something good is always waiting around the corner.

She is what comes to mind when you hear the word ‘optimist’. People usually say that she’s watched too many romantic movies. Not everything is so peachy.

She is always on the lookout for that one little miracle which will change everything for the better. Optimism is food for her soul.

The best way to sum up everything that has been said, and catch the essence of this amazing and unique girl is through this gypsy soul quote by Brooke Hampton:

“I like stormy nights and full moons. I like wolves and wild water. I like to wander and I like adventures. I like unpredictable kisses and conversations full of unexpected truth. I like things that have the soul. They make me feel free.”

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Your Illness Is An Asshole To Me.

The problem is not that you are bipolar. The problem is that you use your illness as an excuse to justify your poor behavior. I’m not insinuating that you don’t have a legit diagnosis, and I’m also not trying to say that you can control your behavior. I know that you can’t.

What you could do is be proactive in your own self-care. What you could do is try to learn strategies that will help YOU to function better in your day-to-day life so that your own behavior isn’t your biggest barrier. I mean, aside from the fact that I can’t talk to you about anything real, and you cut me out of your life and the lives of your children without so much as a second thought, your demons don’t hurt me the way they do you.

As your friend I want better for you, and as a person with experience in dealing with mental health issues, I know that there are more options for you than you will consider.

Knowing that this unwillingness/inability to help yourself is actually a symptom of the very problem I want you to get help for, I have offered to help you. I have offered to do the legwork, make the phone calls, come with you to appointments. I even offered to go with you to the hospital and sit in the emergency department for two days so you could have your meds monitored and adjusted when your ‘idiot doctor’ had the nerve to leave you in his waiting room for too long, and you left the office in a huff without getting the prescription that you needed to function. And then I listened to you complain three months later when you still hadn’t resolved the issue on your own.

You have a diagnosis and you think that’s enough, but it’s not. Your meds clearly help to some degree, but they aren’t going to teach you the skills you need to maintain your interpersonal relationships.

If at any point you would like to get off the roller coaster that is your life, you will have to actually face yourself. You create chaos because that’s what you need to feel grounded, and you refuse to get actual help because you don’t want to do the work that helping yourself will entail. It’s hard, and when things get hard, you would rather walk away than problem solve. I’ve seen you do it over and over in your life; you want to take the easy way out and it leads to more work for yourself.

Okay, fine, whatever. Keep half-assing it. It’s not for me to judge your life choices, and I’m not. The problem is that I can’t tiptoe around you on these eggshells anymore. If I thought there was an end in sight, maybe. But, unfortunately, I’ve come to realize that until you get real help and change your patterns, we are always going to end up at this place where you see me as the enemy. You get mad at me for knowing that you could have a better quality of life, and even madder when I try to help you achieve that when you start spiraling out of control. I don’t know what to do with that anymore.

What you don’t realize while you’re busy being mad at me for giving a fuck, is that you’re breaking my heart over and over again. You’re making me question my sanity. You’re separating me from your children whom I love dearly and have tried and succeeded to make meaningful relationships with, and every time you cut me off, they feel abandoned by me, while I miss them and all of their important milestones until you decide I’m not the worst again.

It’s not just you in this and all the time that you’re not actually dealing with or managing your illness, my place in your life is precarious, and no matter how many ways I try to tell myself, “It’s not her, it’s her illness,” it comes back to the fact that, as long as you are not dealing with your diagnosis, you are your illness, and your illness is kind of an asshole to me.

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God Is Enough.

It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do in life, and how much you have accomplished. I’m certain that you have one final goal which is common to every human being alive, and that is to be happy.

Of course, happiness has a different meaning for all of us.

Some think that being happy is sleeping next to your loved one or just being able to sleep peacefully. Some find happiness in good health, while others chase material possessions and money.

However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that none of these groups actually acquire true happiness.

In fact, people who realize that God is enough end up the happiest.

These are the only people who don’t worry about what tomorrow will bring, who don’t overthink the past, trying to change it, and who live a life without any fear.

It doesn’t matter what religion you belong to—the bottom line is always the same: if you have enough faith in God, everything else in this earthly existence becomes completely irrelevant.

It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do in life, and how much you have accomplished. I’m certain that you have one final goal which is common to every human being alive, and that is to be happy.

Of course, happiness has a different meaning for all of us.

Some think that being happy is sleeping next to your loved one or just being able to sleep peacefully. Some find happiness in good health, while others chase material possessions and money.

However, I have to disappoint you and tell you that none of these groups actually acquire true happiness.

In fact, people who realize that God is enough end up the happiest.

These are the only people who don’t worry about what tomorrow will bring, who don’t overthink the past, trying to change it, and who live a life without any fear.

It doesn’t matter what religion you belong to—the bottom line is always the same: if you have enough faith in God, everything else in this earthly existence becomes completely irrelevant.

However, when you believe in God, one significant thing drastically changes: your perception of everything going on around you.

No, your life won’t magically fall into place, and your problems don’t disappear, as if they were never there.

However, you get your inner peace, and there is nothing more important than that.

You get the realization that you don’t depend on anyone besides God and that He is the only one who can impact your life besides yourself.

When your faith in God is firm, you realize that everything happens for a reason, and you search for good in all the bad situations that occur. You allow him to lead you, and you trust Him to show you the right way.

You understand that everything you are going through happened for your own good. You become optimistic and look forward to every new day because you see your life as a perfect puzzle and because you know that God always has a plan, even when you don’t see it.

You’re at peace because you know that He’ll never give you more than you can handle and because you realize that all the tough love He’s been giving you is nothing but a valuable lesson which will transform you into the person you’re destined to be.

When you see that God is enough, you have patience, and all of your worries go away. You know that there is no point in cracking your brains open because your future is already written.

You are aware that your life will turn out just the way it should. You know that you’ll get exactly what and who is destined to be yours, and even when you lose someone, you understand that you were better off without them.

Once you understand that God is enough, you are no longer a control freak, and you don’t think that everything is in your hands.

You learn to let go and move on with your life because you know that something better always awaits you.

You accept that some things and people are simply not meant to be, that all of your efforts in changing that are in vain, and that there is nothing you can do about it. 

Just like that, everything becomes crystal clear, and you get the bottom of life’s meaning and the purpose you have on Earth.

You start seeing the world around you from a completely different perspective, and you get all the answers you have been searching for for so long.

Most importantly—when you realize His importance, you stop looking for love in all the wrong places and from the wrong people. You are no longer dependent on others to give you validation and to prove your worth.

You don’t allow your happiness to be connected with anyone else.

You stop with all the self-doubts which have been eating you alive simply because you believe in His light to guide you and pull you out of the darkness, no matter what happens.

You don’t need other people you can trust and rely on, when you have Him who’ll never leave your side. You stop chasing everyone’s attention and admiration, and you stop putting others in the centre of your Universe.

Even when everyone abandons you, you know that He remains, no matter what. Even when you feel pain for someone’s absence, His presence makes it a lot easier and more bearable.

So, please, stop chasing earthly pleasures, temporary love, short term lust or material belongings.

Trust me when I tell you that none of these things will bring you joy nor will they make you feel complete and fulfilled.

Instead, focus all of your strengths in the search for God.

Chase faith, and understand that it is the only thing which will make you truly and utterly happy.