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It Is OK Not To Be OK.

I see what’s behind your strong face. I see the pain you’re hiding to protect yourself and to keep up that image of a strong and independent woman who doesn’t need anyone’s help. I see what you’re doing and I get it.

I know you can’t afford to show weakness. I know that you have to get up every morning and along with your make-up, put a smile on your face.

Because that is what a smile is to you—a removable piece of make-up.

You have your reasons for acting like that. You have to keep it together because there is someone else you’re protecting.

You’re pretending you’re okay for the sake of someone dear to you, someone you can’t let down.

The sad part is, no one ever asks if you can do it. No one cares where you get the strength from.

People think you’re like that as if you have a choice. But you don’t have a choice, do you? Being strong is something you HAVE to be.

You were taught that tears are a sign of weakness. You were taught that no matter what, you have to get up in the morning and go on—for the sake of the others.

No one has ever told you that you have to think about yourself, too.

If you don’t feel like smiling today, then don’t smile. If you don’t feel like talking to others, retrieve to your lonesome.

Do whatever the hell you want because you deserve it.

Hey, it’s okay not to be okay. We weren’t made perfect, we weren’t born with a smile.

We were born with a choice to act the way we feel. Everything else we do is a lie.

Don’t lie to yourself and don’t bottle up your feelings. They are eventually going to float out.

And when that time comes, you’re going to pay the price for not respecting yourself this whole time.

What is strength, anyway?

I know that’s what you’re thinking now. Strength is being able to keep it together.

Strength is the ability to not show your emotions. Strength is when you hold your tears in. Well, you got it all wrong.

What you think strength is, is a Big. Fat. Lie. You’re lying to yourself and by lying, you’re not respecting yourself.

Then, how can you respect or love anyone else?

Let me tell you what being strong really is. It’s having the courage to admit when your life is going down the drain.

It’s being able to admit that you’re not having a great day. Strength is all of that but the biggest sign of how much of a badass you are, is the ability to live through all of that and come back stronger than ever.

Being strong is when your life is falling apart and you decide to turn it around.

When you hit rock bottom and you know there is no other way than going up from where you are.

And you go ahead and do it. You take one thing at a time and you’re successful. You’re building yourself one small step at a time.

That’s what being strong really is.

Never be afraid to admit you need someone. That is not a sign of weakness. That is a sign you have the guts to show everyone how you really feel.

You’re so brave for doing that. Do you know why?

It’s because people lie all the time. People think that being vulnerable, is something you should be ashamed of.

They automatically feel exposed and threatened. They’re living in fear of getting hurt.

But none of them gets that besides getting hurt, you can get help from the people who love you.

But the people who care about you see this image of a strong young woman fighting every battle, but what they don’t see, is that you’re swallowing your every tear and hiding your pain.

That’s why they won’t offer to help you. They think you don’t need it.

But listen to this: “I need you to help me!” Try this, it’s not as hard as you think.

It’s so much easier than everything you’re doing now. And most importantly, it’s more than okay.

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Just Because I Always Seem To Have It Together, Doesn’t Me I Don’t Have Heavy Baggage.

You know that girl who seems as if she never takes the smile off her face? The girl who looks like she doesn’t have a worry on her mind, who is always relaxed and handles all of her problems with ease?

You know that girl who is always optimistic, no matter what, and who never allows the darkness to consume her?

The girl who is constantly joking around and who somehow manages to find the good in every bad situation?

She sounds almost perfect, right? In fact, I bet you would love to trade places with her. 

She looks like someone who doesn’t waste her time on overthinking, someone who can cut you out of her life in a matter of minutes and someone who is completely indifferent toward everything going on around her. 

Well, guess what? I’m that girl. And I’m here to tell you that things are nowhere near what they seem to be.

You see, I’m going through a lot—I just don’t allow it to be seen.

The truth is that I’m heartbroken, that I have more than one problem and that just like you, sometimes I don’t know whether I will make it or not. 

It’s not that I’m suppressing my negative emotions or ignoring my pain, hoping that it will go away.

I’m not sweeping my baggage under the carpet—I’m simply not showing it to anyone who crosses my path.

You might call me guarded or overly careful when it comes to people but according to my experiences, you get nothing by showing everyone how you feel.

No, the world won’t help you deal with your troubles and they won’t give you a hand when you’re going through hardships—they’ll just see them as weaknesses and use everything they know against you.

So, what’s the point of crying out loud and constantly complaining? What’s the point of playing the victim and expecting other people’s sympathy?

Will it magically chase away my demons, heal my past traumas and repair my crushed heart? It won’t, will it now?

Don’t get me wrong—it’s not that I’m trying to represent my life as ideal.

I’m not ashamed of my emotional load and I’m not pretending to be better than you; I just have a hard time sharing my deepest emotions and opening up completely. 

However, just because I don’t let anyone see my pain, it doesn’t mean I’m indestructible.

It doesn’t make me stronger than the rest and it doesn’t make my heart unbreakable.

Just because you don’t notice the burden I’m carrying around, it doesn’t mean it’s not there.

Just because I don’t talk about everything that’s been weighing me down, it doesn’t make it easy. 

Just because you know nothing about my break-ups, family matters or health problems, it doesn’t mean my life is perfect.

Just because I don’t keep on posting pathetic motivational messages or sad quotes all over my social media profiles, it doesn’t mean nothing touches me.

Just because I don’t go around telling people about my mental issues and don’t treat them as some kind of a trend of modern society, it doesn’t mean I don’t struggle with depression and anxiety.

Just because I laugh away my troubles, it doesn’t mean I don’t cry myself to sleep. 

Just because I managed to win my battles, it doesn’t make the windmills easy to fight. Just because I see my struggles as blessings, it doesn’t mean they didn’t hit me. 

Just because you don’t see my sad story, it doesn’t make it fake or non-existent.

Just because you never saw me break, it doesn’t mean I’m a rock which is impossible to harm. 

All of you notice nothing besides my happy moments and my triumphs. Nevertheless, have you ever wondered how much effort and sacrifices there are behind my every success? 

So please, think about all of this the next time you envy or judge me or the next time you wish to trade places with me.

Think about all the tears which are hidden behind that smile you see, about all the sacrifices laying behind every achievement and all of the invisible load I carry on my back.

And I’m not the only one going through life like this. There exist people who don’t like being the center of attention, who don’t enjoy drama and who prefer jumping over their obstacles on their own. 

It doesn’t matter whether someone is going through a tough break-up, or whether their family member is sick, if they have a work-related crisis or are dealing with something you know nothing about and is beyond your comprehension, the bottom line is the same—they do their best to work things out without having to ask for anyone’s help. 

Think about that the next time you hurt me, convinced that it will cause no damage to me.

The next time you treat me like a fool, the next time you run away from me at the first glance of trouble in my life and the next time you forget I’m only a human made of flesh and blood.

I’m just begging you to have this one thing in mind: everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. And we all deal with life’s circumstances in a different way.

After all, how many times have you hidden your tears from the rest of the world? How many times have you said that everything is in perfect order, when it clearly wasn’t?

So, just because someone doesn’t go around crying about everything bad they experienced, don’t see it as a sign that their life is going smoothly because I assure you it’s not; nobody’s life does.

In fact, there is a possibility that this person has it way worse than you. 

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