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Forgive Yourself.

Ever since you were a little kid, you were taught the importance of forgiveness.

You were advised that no matter what someone does to you, you should be the bigger person and find the strength in yourself to accept their apology. 

You were taught that resentment and grudges will bring you no good and will only do you damage, that karma is the best revenge and that you should never plan on getting even with those who did you harm.

You were taught to respond with kindness even to the worst evil.

And this is not something I want to argue against. After all, the ability to forgive is one of the most quality personality traits not many possess.

However, nobody has ever told you about something more important: about the art of forgiving yourself. Because let’s face it—nobody can hurt you as much as you can hurt yourself.

So, for a change, make this new years goal the relationship you have with yourself. Focus on being at peace with yourself and most importantly—on sincerely, truly forgiving yourself.

Start with forgiving yourself for all the times you broke your own heart.

For all the times you didn’t know better, for all the situations in which you should have been wiser and smarter but didn’t succeed in doing so.

Forgive yourself for all the sleepless nights, for all the tears you cried and for all the smiles which didn’t appear on your face.

For all the situations in which you thought of yourself as too weak or too vulnerable. 

Forgive yourself for all the wrong choices you made and for all the wrong guys you let in.

For putting them in front of yourself, for all the effort you invested which turned out to be vain, for all the pointless sacrifices you made…

You know you gave your best, you know you never deliberately caused someone else’s pain and that should be more than enough.

Forgive yourself for all the times you didn’t have enough faith in your potential and capacity.

For all the times you didn’t believe that you would make it, the times when you allowed others to put you down and when you tried shutting down your ambitions because you were too afraid of what other people might say. 

Forgive yourself every situation in which you failed your own expectations and betrayed your principles. After all, you’re just a human being and you’re allowed to make mistakes.

Forgive yourself for all the second chances you shouldn’t have given. The important thing is that you always meant well and had good intentions. 

It wasn’t your fault that they saw your kindness as a green light to keep on hurting you.

Stop blaming yourself for the way they violated your trust more than once and for the way they took advantage of your gentle heart; that’s on their conscience, not on yours.

Forgive yourself for all the goodbyes you didn’t say in time, for all the times you kept going back to the same crime scene and for all the apologies you shouldn’t have accepted.

For all the lies you swallowed, despite knowing they weren’t true and for all the self-deceptions you put yourself through, in hopes of better times.

Forgive yourself for not seeing your own worth.

For allowing some douchebags to diminish it, for believing them when they convinced you that you weren’t good enough and for not seeing how much you deserve. 

Forgive yourself for all the times you settled for less, when you begged for someone’s attention and accepted breadcrumbs of his love and for every situation in which you gave more than you got in return. 

Most importantly—forgive yourself for not loving yourself enough.

Forgive yourself for all the times you were too hard, too impatient and too judgmental on yourself and for not taking good care of your body, heart and soul.

There is no point in looking back in the past because as much as you try, you can never change it. However, the good news is that you can learn from it. 

For starters, in 2020, learn how to prioritize yourself and to stop doing things that you’ll have to ask to be forgiven for.

Accept your own apologies but don’t forget your mistakes. 

Instead, make sure you don’t repeat them. Good luck and have a happy New Year!

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True Love.

All of you who have experienced painful heartbreak more than one time, all of you who have put a lot of effort and tears into the wrong people only to get nothing in return, all of you who were disappointed in love in one way or another, you recognize love in only one shape and that is suffering.

All of this emotional pain has made you much stronger. But it has also destroyed all your faith in love, the concept of a soulmate, and dreams about the kind of love worth fighting for. You gave up on any hope that you’d find true love, that your better half was somewhere out there. 

And you stopped believing that true love existed. Even if it did, it wasn’t something worth waiting for and definitely not something worth fighting for. I know you gave up…

You were giving your heart to all the wrong people for as long as you can remember and you’d just had enough of it. You had enough of heartbreaks and disappointments, enough of shattered hopes and dreams.

So you started seeing love as something unrealistic and unattainable, and you reconciled yourself to the fact that you were not meant to experience it even though all of your best friends seemed to have already found their significant other. They were already in a happy relationship or in a happy marriage, but still you decided to observe love from a safe, long distance.

You lost all hope that there existed your forever person as well, someone who would love you unconditionally, so you decided to find happiness outside of love.

And it doesn’t mean you feel miserable because of this; you’ve embraced your single life, and you’ve learned to live without love. You decided to push yourself forward without waiting for the right guy to come along. You invested all of your time and energy exclusively in yourself.

And this doesn’t mean that you’re selfish. It only means that your life experiences, relationship issues, and relationship problems taught you that there is no one you can rely on. So, you decided to be your own support and life partner.

And although loving yourself and taking care of yourself are two of the best things you could have ever done, I’m here to tell you that true love will come when you least expect it. And I’m here to tell you not to give up on it when it comes. Instead, fight for it!

Because true love is worth fighting for! And it does exist, despite everything you’ve been told and despite everything you’ve lived through. (I know you don’t believe it now, but you’ll see it when it happens to you.)

True love will be worth every sleepless night you’ve spent wondering when you will find happiness. It will be worth all the battles you led with all those wrong guys and all the fights you had with yourself. 

Because true love will make you feel stronger than ever!

It will make you feel like you’re unstoppable and that you can do anything you’ve set your mind to. You will feel like you can move all the mountains in this world with your little finger because with the right person by your side, everything will seem possible and achievable for the rest of your life.

The whole world becomes a better place of vast opportunities, chances, hopes, and dreams because true love motivates you to notice all the little things that matter and to fight for all the things worth fighting for. True love will inspire you to become the best version of yourself, and it will help you create the best stories of your book called Life.

True love will make you want to be a better person!

When you finally find the man/woman of your dreams, they won’t have the desire to change you. Instead, they will accept you for who you really are, with all of your flaws and imperfections because true love recognizes and awakens true value in human beings.

The love this man/woman will give you and the love you will feel for them will change you for good, whether you like it or not. It will make you a more positive, loving person who will always look on the brighter side of life. 

It will improve your life in its every aspect—your mental health, your physical health. It will cleanse your soul from all the past toxicity that has accumulated through all this time.

True love will keep reminding you that from now on, you’ll never be the only one fighting for your relationship because true love is reciprocal, giving, and understanding. Love worth fighting for recognizes only mutual effort, mutual trust, and mutual happiness.

True love will restore your faith in all of humanity!

When you finally experience true love in a relationship, you’ll start seeing the good in everyone you encounter, and that is why true love is worth fighting for. You’ll start enjoying all those little things you were missing out on.

You will start noticing all of those beautiful flowers that you’ve been somehow missing all this time. You will start seeing the good in everyone. The sky will look brighter, and your hope in humanity will be restored. Love worth fighting for will give you special glasses specifically designed to see beauty in everything and everyone around you.

True love will delete everything negative that you’ve acquired over time, and it will replace it with understanding, compassion, and patience. True love will show you that the world is not supposed to be observed in black and white, but in lavish colors and shades that you didn’t even know existed.

And most importantly, true love will restore your faith in yourself.

When the right person comes along, they will make you feel like you are the only woman/man in the world. They will heal all the wounds all those wrong guys/girls inflicted, and they will show you your true worth.

They will be there for you when you cry, smile, when you’re vulnerable, and even when you don’t want anyone near you. They will show you the true beauty of your tears, smiles, and the beauty of your being. 

They will remind you that you’re only human and that you’re an amazing human because you never gave up on love no matter how hard it was to keep believing in it, let alone keep fighting for it. They will help you see your true strength, boldness, and endless potential.

And the moment you see and truly feel real love, you’ll forget about all those heartbreaks you’ve been through. You’ll understand why all the guys/girls from your past were wrong and why it wasn’t meant to be with any of them.

And suddenly, everything will make sense. You’ll see that everything you went through in life and everything that has happened to you has been leading you to this moment. And for the first time ever, you’ll see everything crystal clear.

You’ll see why it was all worth it!

So, please, don’t give up on love just yet. Instead of running away from it, embrace it, and allow it to enter your life. And when true love comes into your life, give it a chance. 

Instead of fighting love, start fighting for it. Fight for love worth fighting for with everything you have. Hold on to it and never let it go. Because trust me—it will be worth it.