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God Made You The Way You Are.

Having somebody in your life who can see beyond your flaws and love you beyond all measure is something every human being aspires to attain.

Being loved for who you are as opposed to who this other person wants you to be is the ultimate dream, but unfortunately, one that seldom happens.

People aren’t as pure as they convince themselves they are.

People don’t always love you the way they promised they would.

That is a disappointment many people face at some point or another.

And there are moments where it can be excruciatingly hard to accept.

Everyone wants that “perfect” specimen of a human being and once they see any imperfections (which are signs that you’re only human), they look for a way out.

It can be heartbreaking and soul-crushing, but here’s why you shouldn’t despair.

If your man/woman can’t love all of you (flaws and all), don’t worry about it.

Firstly, he/she doesn’t deserve an opportunity to be close to you anyway and, secondly, there is somebody who loves you exactly the way you are.

The only one who sees all of your flaws and loves you profoundly as if you were the best thing on earth – God.

And isn’t that comforting? When you’re surrounded by a sea of shitty men, how soothing is it to know that there is someone who is always there for you?

Someone who will always root for you and give you that push whenever you need it.

You can’t see it and you certainly can’t hear it, but it’s there. 

You can notice signs of His existence during your harshest moments.

You know those days when you feel at your lowest and you lose faith in all humanity?

Those moments when people bring you down and all you can see in the mirror are your flaws?

Just know that God sees you, hears you, and has your back.

To Him – you’re perfect in all of your imperfect existence! 

He doesn’t care about those flaws you can’t stop worrying about because they are only a tiny part of your beautiful being!

He doesn’t think you’re being too clingy or overbearing.

He knows your capacity to love is simply overwhelmingly profound, and He wants you to know that it’s okay!

He doesn’t mind your occasional irrational fear of being unloved because that’s what every human goes through every now and again.

And with God, you never have to worry if you’re good enough.

To Him, that is not even a question. We are all His creations and He made us all individually the way He saw fit.

Who is anyone to judge you for being what God made you to be?

How do any of your toxic exes have the right to deem you unworthy when you are exactly what He wanted you to be?

This is where you win. Those who only see your flaws are superficial beings who are still not mature enough to comprehend that people are meant to be flawed.

How else are you going to learn to become the ultimate version of yourself?

How else are you meant to experience all the things in this world that, through pain, will teach you how to move forward in the best way for your well-being?

God wants you to explore all sides of you. He made you the way you are because that is exactly how you’re supposed to walk this earth.

That is how you are supposed to make friends and find those people who’ll love you through thick and thin.

If you were perfect, people would only love you because of that unique quality, and what’s the point in that?

We all make mistakes and hurt people along the way. That’s just life.

But once you learn that your shortcomings and imperfections aren’t to be feared but rather proud of, that’s when you get closer to figuring it all out.

God knows what He’s doing, no matter how tricky and confusing things may appear at times.

Leave all those people who point out your flaws and blame you for merely being human.

They’re the ones who are losing in life. Only those who find a way to make it work regardless of not being perfect are going to live a life worth living.

It’s not about being flawless. It’s about owning your imperfections and never letting them trump all those divine qualities you possess.

You are never going to be perfect, but when you realize that the only thing that matters is learning to love yourself regardless, you’ll understand why God made you the way you are.

When all those people try to bring you down, maintain your faith that He has a plan.

Repeat to yourself that nobody is perfect and you sure as hell are never going to try to be.

All you can do is be the best version of yourself and let Him see that you finally understand that a flaw here or there doesn’t define you.

What does define you is your ability to walk this earth like a proudly imperfect, yet badass woman who loves the shit out of herself, knowing she’s got the only support she will ever really need – God’s!

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2020, I Am Finally Ready.

I’m finally ready to leave behind everything bad that has happened to me. I’m finally ready to start a new chapter of my life. I’m ready to write on those blank pages that are waiting to be filled.

I know that I’ve made mistakes and I know that a lot of fucked up things happened to me this year, but I’m finally ready to leave it behind because those things are going to be memorized as only parts of my life, only a few pages of thousands to come.

I’m finally ready to leave the past where it belongs.

I’m ready to turn to the future and I’m excited about whatever it holds for me. It doesn’t matter if it’s going to be bad or good, I’m ready for whatever happens. I’m not afraid because I know I will survive everything, I know I can because I already did.

I’m finally ready to learn from all the mistakes I’ve made. I’m ready not to make them again. But I know I will go wrong somewhere once again and that doesn’t matter. I decided it doesn’t matter because I will let those mistakes go and learn from them once again. That is how I will grow and learn. That is how I will become even better than I already am.

I’m finally ready to make a fresh start. I will leave this year in the past and I will forgive it and let it go.

Along with this year, I will leave in the past every heartbreak I’ve had. I will forgive this year for making me feel lost and for taking things away from me. At the end of it all, I will forgive myself for expecting too much and getting not nearly as much as I was hoping to get.

I want to thank you because you taught me how to stand up for myself. You taught me how to speak my mind. You taught me that nothing falls into your lap and that you have to try very hard and to fight for the things you want.

Before I move on and close this chapter and say the final goodbye, I want to say that I’m thankful for all the lovely people I’ve met, for all the laughter I’ve had. I will never forget the happy moments that made my life beautiful even when it was only for a moment. I’m thankful for the pain I’ve felt because of the people who helped me heal and forget.

But, it’s time to finally say goodbye and lock the door to my past. I can’t change anything that has happened and I won’t bother trying. Instead, I’m going to build the courage I have left to keep on fighting for my new beginning because I deserve one but I have to allow myself to have one. That’s why I’m saying goodbye.

I know that this year has been unlike any other. It was my choices that gave it a path to walk on. I guess I’m not forgiving or blaming this year. I’m forgiving and thanking myself and I’m giving myself another chance.

So, 2020, here I come, ready to spend time with you, only this time it’ll be different. This time I’m so ready and stronger than ever.

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Change And Growth.

‘Change is a necessary part of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.’ – Unknown

It is in human nature to think that change is something bad or unnecessary and the biggest obstruction of our happiness, something completely different.

It is in human nature to be afraid of new things, new challenges and new risks but without it, we would never be able to evolve.

Change happens when we least expect it and no matter how hard we resist to accept and embrace it, no matter how hard we try to stay in our comfort zone, change will keep doing its job and it will influence our mind, body and soul. 

Now, it is up to us whether we will choose to accept it as something totally unnecessary and destructible or something that influences our personal development and helps us grow.

In the last few years, I’ve learned that every change is a good change to a certain degree.

If you choose to embrace change and see it as a new opportunity, new experience and different perspective that shapes your being and helps you evolve, you will realize that change is necessary for your own well-being, success and happiness!

Every big change creates a disruption but it is a necessary disruption without which we wouldn’t be able to grow and reach our full potential.

Imagine that you’re living a “perfect life” without any disruptions and you know exactly what to expect and when to expect it to happen.

It wouldn’t only be boring and monotonous but also you would never have an opportunity to test your boundaries, become more resilient and stronger, right? 

That is the main reason why every positive change and negative change is necessary for growth and our personal development.

By embracing change, we’re allowing our future self to improve, shine and become bigger and stronger! 

So, once you get the courage to pursue and embrace a change, you will experience benefits that will make your life so much better!

We often see every change as a bad thing but that every change teaches us something new and it is necessary for personal growth.

Change is the only constant and for the sake of understanding it more clearly, I’ll compare it with change management methods present in every organization as a part of human resource.

Let’s say that your brain collects your personal data (events and changes) and then creates a discussion network where everything gets sorted out and starts making perfect sense.

It is a process where you get to realize that every change has taught you something new.

Change is a process that helps you move on, understand your feelings better and improve your performance.

Change brings you tons of benefits, just like new technology and new products.

If we still had old phones in our hands, we would never be able to Tweet or share new posts with the world that are definitely worth sharing.

Every change (be it big or small) helps you easily adapt to new situations, new environments and new people.

It makes you flexible to every potential change in the future and as a result, it prevents you from getting stuck in the status quo. 

When something unexpected happens, you won’t freak out or freeze because your brain has already learned how to deal with new situations and through every change, it just upgrades its knowledge. 

Frequent changes delete every single trace of anxiety and stress when dealing with new life events and they make you more open-minded to and grateful for new experiences.

If our lives were constantly devoid of any type of change or “turbulence,” we would never be able to look at things from a different perspective.

We would be stuck forever in some kind of limbo where nothing ever changes and as a result, we wouldn’t be familiar with different outcomes and different life values.

But lucky us, for living in a world of continuous changes which help us weigh up our pros and cons, learn valuable lessons and, as a result, reinforce our life values.

We live in a world where we are given the chance to do things differently each time and implement knowledge shaped by our previous experiences.

I’m aware of the fact that this phrase will probably sound corny to many of you but what the hell: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

I myself was a little bit skeptical about this one for years but it turned out that it is nothing but the truth.

Overcoming changes makes you ten times more resilient, flexible and stronger. How?

Because every change is like a mini battle that needs to be overcome, accepted and embraced in order to see the real beauty of it and reach your full potential.

When I was about to move to a new statre, I was frozen in my own body. I was going through multiple panic attacks on a daily basis and I couldn’t function properly.

But now I realize that it was the best thing I have ever done and I wouldn’t change anything.

Changing our paths and usual direction will open the doors to new opportunities and experiences and all we need to do is gather the courage and decide to embrace a new path instead of avoiding it like the plague or something destructible. 

I’m pretty sure that many of us are not even aware of the things around us until something changes.

Change brings excitement to our lives, a smile to our faces and the promise that we will never find ourselves being stuck in a rut. 

And it doesn’t have to be a big change like moving to another city or similar.

Mini changes like rearranging your apartment, choosing a different path when going for a walk, trying new beverages, etc., will refresh your daily routine and teach you that there are tons of other things awaiting you to discover them.

Take a look back at the past and think about your old self five years ago.

Do you notice how your personality, appearance and mindset have significantly altered? You have changed, right?

And all those mini and maxi changes are what made you who you are today.

Everything you went through is a result of becoming the person you’re ought to be. Change equals progress and progress equals personal development and growth.

Breaking up with a partner, leaving a job, moving to another city and similar all bring about new beginnings.

Closing one chapter means starting another one, often a more exciting one. 

Change brings new beginnings, new promises, new perspectives and new reasons for happiness.

Change shapes your beliefs and mindset and it gives you an opportunity to make things right and learn from your mistakes.

Final Thoughts:

Change is necessary for personal development and growth because without it, we wouldn’t be able to learn new perspectives and become stronger and wiser regarding our future choices. 

Change is an inevitable part of our lives and the sooner we learn to embrace it and perceive it as something positive, the sooner we’ll start living the life we deserve. 

‘The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.’ – Dan Millman, Way Of The Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives