10 Things Every Successful Person Does To Make Their Life Better.

1. They understand the importance of a good attitude.

When you keep a positive attitude regardless of what is going in your life, what you are really attracting is better things than what you are currently dealing with. Your attitude is a choice you get to make and it’s your responsibility to not rely on others or situations to influence how you feel and how you respond to things.

None of us are perfect, but if you begin to act like the person you want to become, you will start attracting better things in your life.

It’s not just the attitude you have towards yourself and things that happen, it’s your attitude towards others and the way you make them feel. If the words out of your mouth are negative and putting others down, your attitude will not only repel people but it will attract worse things happening to you.

Look for positivity in every situation. It’s not easy sometimes. Sometimes situations in life are complete shit but if you can find one small thing to hold onto and try to keep a good attitude as you go through it, something will come of it.

Think about the things you say. Are they negative? If so, try to recognize that and alter it. You cannot say negative things and have a good attitude. Remove words like can’t, won’t, hate, maybe, one day.

Learn to say thank you. Learning to appreciate others and be grateful for the good people in your life will only attract more.

2. They have the right priorities.

When you understand the value of your time you learn not to waste it.

The most important time in your life are the 24 hours you have in front of you, and it is up to you on how you spend that time.

Make to-do lists. Get at least 80% of it done. There is a feeling of accomplishment and success in crossing things off a list.

Have a plan on how you are going to tackle things and go about it. Don’t procrastinate and put things off until tomorrow.

Evaluate things based on what will give you the most in return. Those things and people are what deserve your greatest attention.

Recognize the things you aren’t as good at. You don’t have to be good at everything, but know the importance of spending time on the things you are stronger at and areas you can excel in.

The most valuable thing someone can do is step away from areas they are not as strong in. Instead of wasting time trying to do something average, find someone who can do it better. Then focus on the thing you are best at.

Successful people aren’t the ones who do everything well, but the ones who can look at someone who does it better and let them take the reins without it interfering with their ego.

3. They care about their health and well-being.

Health isn’t about looking good. It’s about feeling good and taking care of your body and a self-love that you care about yourself.

Not just physically, but emotionally.

Understanding how to deal with stress effectively will lead to a healthier heart, a happier life, and overall better relationships.

So much stress in our lives is manifested from the things we create ourselves.

But if you take a step back and take care of your mentality, it’s just as important as physical.

Your body will get you through everything, and you owe it to yourself to be in the best shape you can be so you can do things. If you sleep as much as you need to, you’ll be productive throughout the day. If you listen to your body and take a break when you need to, you won’t get sick and call out of work. If you provide the right types of things to fill and fuel your body, you’ll be able to keep going for a long time.

We all have a craving, that’s okay. Sometimes we want to skip the gym and a workout. That’s okay too. But if you understand the relationship you have with food and health and fitness will influence more than just what you look like, we all would be eating healthy and going to the gym and taking a break when we need to.

Health isn’t just about fitness the effect it has is more confidence, it adds discipline, you have better relationships, more success in work, more energy to do things and you build a better relationship with yourself which is the most important relationship you will have in your life.

4. They put their family first.

Regardless of how successful you might be, if you obtain success at the cost of losing your family, you have nothing. It’s important to do well but if you aren’t maintaining your relationships within your family, it doesn’t matter.

Sometimes parents work to give their kids the best life but more than things, they need your time and attention.

5. They understand about making sacrificing and the importance of commitment.

There’s a price to pay for success. And it’s your job to recognize if what you want you’re willing to make the sacrifice to get there.

If you want anything bad enough, you’ll figure out a way to do it. But it’ll take work. Talent is important, being naturally skilled is great but most the time success comes to those who work for it and don’t get discouraged when things don’t go their way.

Commitment is more about the choices you make than it is any luck you might have.

What separates people who are successful and those who fail is, the ones who give up right before achieving success. But with successful people there isn’t failure, there’s just taking a little longer to get there.

6. They understand the importance of their inner circle.

Understanding the importance of the people you keep in your inner circle is key. It not only influences your own happiness, but it impacts the success you see in your life. When you associate with people who are high achievers they will push you to keep up.

Negative people gravitate towards each other and they bring each other down.

You will never be a positive person if the people you choose are negative.

Listen to the things they talk about, how they carry themselves, the things they do in their free time and if they gossip or watch silly reality shows. Successful people don’t waste time talking about others and they know who to pull away from.

Instead, they lift others up and point out their best qualities, not their bad ones. You’ll notice these types of people based on a few things:

1. People don’t say anything bad about them behind their back.

2. They don’t say anything bad about others.

3. They constantly lift you up and you walk away feeling better.

4. They don’t have motives with you, they just like you for you.

5. They tell you how much you mean to them.

6. They are nice.

7. They know generosity isn’t about money.

Being generous isn’t about how big of a check you can write. Generous is the time you invest in causes you care about. It’s about putting your time towards something greater than you. It’s about knowing the value of your time and using that. It’s giving money, but actually doing something gives you an experience that money can’t buy.

People have this limited belief that because of their financial state they can’t give when you don’t have money to give.

Any successful person knows whatever you put into something or someone you get back something much greater than yourself.

At the end of the day, it comes down to what you do for others and if you make someone else’s life better.

8. They know how to push themselves.

Successful people know the importance of striving to better yourself.

It’s about setting concrete goals and actually working towards them. Writing them down so you see them every day. Having both long-term and short-term goals and a plan on how to achieve it.

It’s striving to amount to your full potential and when you wake the thing you look forward to most is taking steps towards achieving just that.

More than pushing yourself to achieve more, it’s about pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. When you don’t fear change but embrace it, you know you are on the right path.

9. They don’t blame others for their problem.

The best people are the ones who take complete responsibility for their life. Even when things are outside their control, they control what they can while letting go of the things they can’t.

Any person who blames others for their problems, will also blame others for the failure. The most successful people own both the good and the bad and learn from it.

10. They don’t settle.

They don’t settle in their careers. They don’t settle in their relationships. They know their worth and value and if they are in a place or with someone who doesn’t know it, also they aren’t staying there. If someone doesn’t see what they have to offer, they walk away because their job isn’t to convince someone to care about them.

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Depression & Dating.

Living with depression is playing two very different roles. Half the time you have it completely together. You’d even go as far as saying you’re normal. You just wish it could stay that way. You cling to every good day which helps you through the bad ones.

Then you begin dating. At first, this person makes you really happy. You almost fear that happiness in the beginning because you know you shouldn’t associate people with happiness. But you also know the closest you ever come to living without depression is, when you’re in a healthy relationship.

Someone loving you rids depression better than any medication ever could. So you enter relationships hoping and praying this might be the right one. You look towards others to save you from yourself but at the same time, that’s a lot to ask of someone.

You’re overcome with guilt, wanting that of someone and instead of explaining this you push a lot of people away.

When you meet someone new, you don’t tell them this thing you are fighting. Instead, you stay silent. As time progresses, you realize there isn’t a person that can fix this for you. When you can’t even fix yourself, you learn to just function or struggle to function. Because even in your best moments, it lingers. Waiting to creep up. Waiting for your best day, then suddenly hitting you late at night.

You go from one extreme to another and you wish that weren’t the case.

And instead of trying to explain what you are feeling to your partner, you push them away until you get through it. Because there isn’t much they can say or do.

And in your distance, they think they’ve done something wrong but the truth is, depression is what is wrong and even living with it, you struggle to clearly articulate and understand it yourself, let alone try to explain it to someone else.

How do you explain, I feel alone even though you are standing right next to me?

How do you explain, I just had the best day of my life but I’m really sad laying here.

How do you explain, I love waking up next to you but I want to just stay here and not have to do anything today?

They love you for this role you play. It’s about the art of deception. They fall for this person who is happy and smiling and the life of the party. But when the party ends and the hangover kicks in and everything kind of shifts within you, you wonder how can someone love this version of you when you struggle to even love that part of yourself.

Instead of explaining you stay silent. Because you don’t want to bring someone into that place. You’re overcome with a sense of guilt that you are like this. This isn’t something you chose and you do your best to stay positive, but it’s exhausting.

What they see is someone who doesn’t sleep through the night and they pull you in because maybe it was just a bad dream but the truth is, this is your reality.

You cry, but you don’t want them to see it because half the time you don’t even know why you’re crying. You don’t want them to feel guilty or feel like they are to blame.

When depression surfaces in a relationship, you each are overcome with guilt. They are racking their brain trying to understand it and you can’t find the words to explain.

“Don’t I make you happy?” or “What can I do?”

Yes. You make me happier than I’ve ever been. And the truth is, there is nothing you can do.

Depression is the unwanted houseguest that over stays their welcome, making a home within your bones. Taking over when they feel like. Controlling you however they choose. Leaving but lurking. And even when they say goodbye, they promise they will return. You wish you could lock the door, but they always find a way in.

Your partner pulls you in because even though they don’t understand, they still love the parts of you you don’t like, and you wonder how could someone love the worst parts of who you are?

In your head, you think they are staying because they feel bad. If they leave, it will trigger even more depression but you’re overcome with guilt because you don’t want someone to resent you for staying.

Depression is pushing someone away because you think it’s for the best, but secretly hoping they pull you in and don’t let you go.

Half of you is this person they admire. Because when you have depression, you feel the need to try a little too hard to overcompensate for the parts you think you lack.

You try a little too hard for this relationship. You do a little too much. You invest everything you possibly can into someone because you want to give them a reason to stay. Because when they finally see you at your worst, you don’t want them to leave. Even if you say you do. You want them to keep picking you every time.

You fear them getting to know all of you. But more than that, you fear rejection. You fear abandonment. You fear another goodbye and you just being too much to handle.

You know your flaws, so you try to hide them.

You hide this through achievements and awards and goals chasing after things that are supposed to make you happy, only to realize how hard obtaining happiness is for you.

Scrolling through a news feed and painting this life for yourself. But it’s more filtered pictures, you put filters on your life and if someone were to judge you based on what you put out there, the word “perfect” makes you cringe, but that’s the picture you’re trying to paint.

Your partner admires you for who you are and what you achieve and how much you take on. If they could describe you in a single word they wouldn’t say depressed, they’d say busy. Because when you are busy, you don’t have time to think too much about how you’re feeling.

But more than the things you achieve, they admire who you are as a person. Your compassion. Your sensitivity. Your lack of judgment. Your ability to read people. There is something about a person who notices things you try to hide. When they have a bad day you see them hiding it, and without even speaking you know what they need. A hug. Silence. Understanding without words.

It’s the resilience they admire. Because that moment they do see you at your worst. The moment you break down and fall completely apart and they are holding you as you’re sobbing uncontrollably, they don’t look at you as weak. They see a strength within you.

Because the hardest battles to fight are the ones within ourselves, the ones we can’t control.

And you wake up the next day and you’re smiling and ready to tackle the next 24 hours and you are you again. But the thing is, relationships might be hard when you have depression and you might be afraid to let someone that close but when you do and they accept you for all you are, you realize it’s okay.

Through someone else’s love and acceptance, you find that within yourself. When you have depression, relationships might be a little more challenging, but that’s because it takes a certain type of person to be what you need. And when you finally find them, even on your worst days, you’ll count them as your greatest blessing.

You know depression might not go away, but there’s something about someone fighting it with you that makes you feel less alone.

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