Don’t Set Resolutions Looking For A Big Change In 2019.

Everyone talks about change in the New Year like you have to. Like a new year on the calendar marks a time where you are suddenly going to wake up and choose to be a different person. So you set goals, you have expectations and hopes. You hold onto hope that this will be the year you change or something in your life will.

Join a gym. Lose weight. Eat healthier. Stop drinking. Stop smoking. Be in a relationship. Get over your ex. Save money. Try a new hobby or join some group. Travel more.

You write down resolutions (some you won’t achieve.) Then you feel slightly defeated when you don’t amount to it or a month goes by and suddenly it’s February and you haven’t seen the results you wanted or the outcome you were hoping for.

When you focus too much on where you want to go rather than where you are, you’ll never get there.

We think we have to suddenly make a giant change in our life just because it’s a new year. But change isn’t about one big step it’s about the little ones that lead us to somewhere better.

Babies can’t run before they learn to walk so why would you tackle your resolutions or goals any differently?

A new year doesn’t mean suddenly waking up and being a new you, it means making the choice to want to take the proper steps towards the person you want to become.

Just because the calendar changed, doesn’t mean suddenly you are going to.

You’re going to wake up on January 1st and it’s going to feel like any other day of the week. The only difference is the pressure you put on yourself to be somewhere by a certain time.

Change doesn’t happen overnight. And there isn’t going to be some ah-ha moment where it’s clear you’ve done it. But when enough times passes, one day you are going to look back and realize where you were maybe six months ago, maybe a year ago and then you’ll either see you’ve made progress or you’re in the same place.

Achieving anything occurs when you alter the choices you make right now.

Little things added together turn into something greater.

Don’t wait for Monday or a new month or a new year. Start now.

If it’s losing weight or eating healthier, pay close attention to what you put into your body.

If it’s going to the gym, hold yourself accountable when you want to skip a workout.

Don’t say I’ll just go tomorrow or I’ll eat healthier for my next meal. Think of right now in this moment. Because these moments matter.

If your goal is to save money, ask yourself as you’re about to buy something, ‘do I need this right now?’

The little things matter and every choice we make reflects the outcome of what we get. If you aren’t happy with the outcome, think of what led to that.

When I run a half or a full marathon a lot of people ask me, ‘how do you do it?’ or they say something like I could never. When I’m running, I never think about how far I have to go or the finish line. I think of this step right now, this mile, this movement. And eventually, I get there…every time.

You don’t need to enter this new year coming out of the gates running full speed with hopes of some big change everyone can see. Sometimes all it takes are little steps that will get there more effectively. Sometimes change and improvement aren’t measured in benchmarks that others can see. Sometimes the greatest measurement of change is that moment you look at yourself in the mirror and you’re proud of who you’ve become.

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She’s The Type…

She’s the type who will give you more chances than you probably deserve because when shown the bad parts of you, she chooses to see the good.

She’s the type who will forgive your lies and believe your excuses because she understands things come up and sometimes plans don’t go accordingly.

She’s the type who won’t be mad you canceled, she’ll just be disappointed she couldn’t see you and spend time with you.

She’s the type who will accept your apologies even in the times you don’t say you’re sorry, because she believes in the person you can be.

She’s the type who will never stop trying because she believes some people are worth the effort.

She’s the type you can rely on, the one who will always be there even though you haven’t shown her that same respect and commitment.

She’s the type who will be there even when she’s busy because she doesn’t like letting people down.

She’s the type who will answer your texts quickly even when you don’t because she doesn’t believe in playing games.

She’s the type you know you can have if you want her, but something about that is too easy.

She’s the type who will give without expecting something in return.

She’s the type that even if you’re mean, she won’t respond with anything but silence.

She’s the type who will give you her undivided attention even if you haven’t earned it.

She’s the type that’ll love you unconditionally regardless of how you feel. Because she cares about building people up and not using them to build herself up.

She’s the type who will love really hard and get hurt for it.

She’s the type who will live with her heart on her sleeve and it’ll leave her insecure.

She’s the type who will look at her reflection analyzing flaws thinking there’s something wrong with her, and not those people who fail to see her value.

She’s the type who will say exactly how she feels and not apologize for it.

She’s the type who lives by the rule ‘treat people the way you want to be treated.’

Even though there are some people who could use a taste of their own medicine. She’ll never be the one to give someone what they might deserve.

And in return, she gets used, taken advantage of, judged very harshly, and treated unkindly even though she never deserved it.

Despite being given every reason to change, she won’t.

Despite everything, she’ll still believe in people.

She’ll stay exactly who she is.

She’ll continue to act exactly as she does.

She’ll continue to get hurt, not changing.

But what changes, is every person she interacts with.

Because the girl who doesn’t change is the one who changes everyone around her through her example of kindness, compassion, unconditional love, and understanding.

She’ll walk away after trying harder than she should have in the first place.

She’s the type whose heart will break giving up on you, but even she knows there’s only so much someone can do.

She’ll be the type you’ll hurt when you’re young and you’ll live to regret it when you’re older.

And you’ll think back knowing you hurt someone who chose to never do the same, when you probably deserved it.

Then when you finally muster the courage to apologize, she’ll forgive you so easily, welcoming you with open arms and a smile like the time, distance and mistakes were just a thing in the past.

There will be in a single moment of watching her out of the corner of your eye, you realize she’s the one who deserved better this whole time.

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