What is the difference between “I like” & “I love you??” Buddha answered this Beautifully: When you “like” a flower, you just pluck it. But when you “love” a flower, you water it daily. One who understands this, understands life. There is a MAJOR difference between Like and Love. “I like you,” means you just found that he/she has a good attitude, same likes and dislikes as you, etc. But not love. In “I like” you relationships you don’t love someone, you just feel happy being with him/her. In other words, “liking” someone means that you are happy being with that person, while “loving” someone means that you absolutely cannot bear to be without that person. As cliché as it may seem, liking gives you the proverbial butterflies in the stomach, but loving someone involves something much deeper than that.
People who have good hearts will always end up losing bc we always give more than what we receive, we always forgive, and we accept the love that we get even when we know we deserve better…yeah, I felt that shit. My only goal in life right now is to be happy. Genuinely, intensely, consistently happy, regardless of what that looks like to others. So, with all that said, don’t compare your chapter 1 with someone else’s chapter 20. And don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you.
People wonder why I give so many compliments out to strangers. I’m not being fake & I’m not looking for people to like me. But, if I pass someone & I like something, I say it. “Love those shoes!” or “Great hair!” or “WOW you have beautiful eyes!”…why you ask? Because life is hard & this world can be a shitty place, & people are mean. You never know how much those few words can mean to someone, you never know what the hell they may be going thru; & when you put positivity out there in the universe YOU, yourself, become a happier person. It’s hard to be nice & miserable yourself, it’ll reflect from the outside in. I’m telling you random compliment giving will change your life, and maybe someone else’s too.
I have lots of experience with “liking” someone – but in “love?” Not so much. When I was 16, I swore I loved my high school crush. We never dated or even never kissed mind you, but were the best of friends. Whenever we hung out we would do sweet, innocent activities like hit up the mall, go for a drive, get ice cream, get coffee, etc. I was convinced I had been in love with him, when really, it was probably a surge of hormones at most.
The idea of being“in love”is kind of scary to me. When we talk about it, be it in magazine articles, movies and TV shows; being in love is made out to be this all-encompassing, mind-altering, ridiculous feeling that wipes away rational sense and fills it with lust, devotion and desire. “In love” to me almost translates to out of control, feeling less of yourself and more hopelessly tethered to someone else. That may sound cynical, but I guess the type of love I’ve experienced is a two-way, happy and healthy street.
Without a doubt, I believe in love. I believe in compassion and support, romance and companionship, encouragement, sex appeal, excitement and spontaneity. I just think it’s wildly different for everyone and silly for us to believe that every person is going to have the same, out-of-body experience. I believe it’s important to like and love. To experience both. You need to date to see what and who you like, just so you can love better in the future. Honestly, truly, I think whatever you yield out of your relationship is a direct correlation to what you’re putting into it. As long as you stay honest and open about what you want, where you’re at, and where you want to be; there’s no reason why you can’t be perfectly content: Coupled up, hooking up, or happily single.