They say that you attract what you think, which basically means you’re responsible for the things that happen to you.
Well, I disagree. I say that you can’t control your surroundings.
You can’t control everything that’s happening to and going on around you. As much as you try, bad things will happen.
You can be the most careful person in the world, but toxic people will sneak up on you.
They will find a way to lure you into their spider’s web.
You can protect your heart with all of your might but somehow, it will get broken into pieces.
No matter how loving and caring you are, there will always be people who will use you.
People who will not treat you the way you deserve to be treated, and people who will break your heart.
Whether we accept it or not, life is not always fair. There are some things you simply can’t run away from.
However, even though you can’t control the world around you, you can control the way you react.
Even though you can’t control people’s behavior, you have the power to control yourself.
So, at the end of the day, everything really is up to you.
You can decide whether to let one bad thing ruin your entire life, whether one toxic person will ruin all of your potential relationships, and whether one negative thing will destroy all the positivity.
Will you be sad because of your failed relationship?
Or you will be happy that you got rid of the man who obviously wasn’t meant to be yours?
Will you see your heartbreaks as the end of the world? Or will you be grateful for the lessons it taught you?
Will you be devastated for not getting that promotion you wanted so badly?
Or will you be thankful for having a job that puts food on the table, which is a privilege many only dream about?
Let’s look at things from this perspective: if you had 1440 dollars but someone took away one dollar, would you throw away the rest? I’m sure you wouldn’t even contemplate it.
Well, one day has 1440 minutes. Therefore, every time you allow one minute of sadness and negativity to ruin your entire day, you’re actually doing the thing mentioned above.
You’re wasting the rest of your minutes. And, I’m sure you’ll agree that time is much more valuable than money.
So, I’m begging you to change your focus.
Stop overthinking everything bad going on around you, and concentrate on the good things.
Don’t allow a moment of sadness to destroy your happiness. Don’t allow one tear to ruin all of your potential laughter and smiles.
Instead of focusing on your curses, focus on your blessings.
Be thankful for all the good things and positive people you have in your life, instead of wasting your energy on the negative.
Most importantly: forget about the past. Yes, you can and should learn from it, but you can’t change it.
There is absolutely no point in holding grudges. There is no point in replaying some previous scenarios in your head.
No point in thinking about all the what ifs. No point in being angry and resentful about some events that went the way they did.
The truth is, that you can’t do anything about it now – besides allowing your past to ruin both your present and the future.
Look around you: I bet there are many things you should be grateful for.
There are many people you should consider yourself lucky to have in your life.
Focus on these things. Focus on your blessings and the little things which can make you happy.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not trying to minimize whatever pain you might be feeling.
I’m not trying to tell you that you’re not allowed to be angry or sad.
I’m just trying to remind you that there are people out there who would love to have your bad days.
People who are struggling in battles you can’t even imagine, and who would give everything to have your worries and hardships.